No one can understand your pain except you — and that’s why you need to release your self-care shame.

Since being diagnosed with trigeminal neuralgia (TN), my mom has been my emotional hotline. I have had more conversations with her — a wise, compassionate, retired nurse — about chronic illness and pain than I can count. Something she says punctuates each and every single one of those chats: “Pain is pain. No one can understand your pain…